Firstly, a short appreciation shout-out to my boyfriend, who is wonderful. Of course, I have my pet peeves about him, but the bottom line is that he respects me and loves me very much, and always does his best to show it. Since he is very vocal about things, he tells me all of the time that I’m beautiful, and is always very nice and considerate and knows what I like. We have our space, and he understands that he doesn’t have to be clingy or controlling. We have a great relationship.
And, he often buys me flowers (for school dances, holidays, etc.). However, I have never bought him flowers. His birthday is coming up, and I have been toying with the idea of getting him some. On a side note, not roses. We both think that roses are kind of cliche (he once got me a huge bouquet of sunflowers spread throughout the day to ask me to Homecoming. Everyone was jealous and surprised that he didn’t get me roses. FYI, sunflowers are really heavy though.). The question is, do I do this?
I don’t personally know, off of the top of my head, any girl who has bought her boyfriend flowers. However, people that I know are weird in relationships, and to put it bluntly, there aren’t very many steady couples in my group of friends right now. There seems to be a social stigma against the tradition, stating that boys buy flowers for girls. People say that boys don’t want to receive flowers, because it isn’t a “manly” gift.
Thanks, Hallmark. Do you know how difficult it is to think of something to buy something for a boy? So many things “aren’t manly” and would “embarrass the boy if he received them”. There have been two things that have been swaying me towards purchasing them after all, however.
The first: my boyfriend doesn’t care about traditional gender roles as much as society does. He doesn’t excessively care about posturing to appear more masculine, either for me or other guys. He will “fanboy” (I dislike that term, but it applies) over things that other men would pretend to be disinterested in. He accepts the fact (I hope) that I will “fangirl” over traditionally masculine things, and I accept that he sometimes wears v-neck t-shirts. So, one point for Chloe.
The second: he is so damn mushy sometimes. As someone who is a little bit less “romantic” in the traditional sense, his habit of showering affection sometimes baffles and confuses me (For example, I have a high self-esteem level, but he finds the need to tell me that I’m beautiful often, which I find excessive and sometimes unnecessary). So, if I got him flowers, it wouldn’t be unnatural for him to love the sentiment. He likes sentiment. He would “get it”, and understand that these flowers wouldn’t be a declaration of love, but rather a token of appreciation.
So, now that I’ve successfully convinced myself to buy him flowers and ignore the rest of the prejudiced world, here comes the hard part. What kind of flowers do I buy?
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